- IK noted that the traditional expectations placed on men in African society sometimes clash with the strong personalities and ambitions of influential women, often leading to tension within the relationship.
Nollywood actor IK Ogbonna has opened up about the challenges African men often face when married to powerful women.
In a post shared on Instagram, Ogbonna pointed out that many of these marriages suffer due to power struggles, identity battles, and the need for control.
He noted that the traditional expectations placed on men in African society sometimes clash with the strong personalities and ambitions of influential women, often leading to tension within the relationship.
He wrote: “One of the most untalked about issues in modern marriages. Especially among African men and powerful women, is the silent battles for identity and control.
It doesn’t always start as conflict. In fact, it often begins with admiration.
He is drawn to her strength.
She is attracted to his confidence.
But somewhere along the line, unconsciously,
Ego meets ego
Pride meets independence.
Culture meets ambition.
Many African men are raised to lead, but not always taught how to lead with a woman who can lead too
Many women, especially those who have built their own, are taught to protect their independence, but not always how to be vulnerable without feeling small.
So what starts as love becomes a power struggle.
Not because they don’t love each other.
But no one taught them to love each other’s strengths without feeling threatened.
This is the root of many unspoken fights, resentments, distance, and ego wars.
And sadly, many never talk about it.
They just drift”.
