- Cynthia Achieng Abok is a 37-year-old Kenyan woman from Kisumu, currently residing in Nairobi.
- She has experienced 12 failed marriages and shared her emotional struggles and life lessons in an interview with Citizen Digital.
- Abok’s first marriage occurred when she was a minor, influenced by a troubled upbringing.
Cynthia Achieng Abok, a Kenyan woman from Kisumu currently living in Nairobi, has opened up about the emotional struggles and life lessons she’s gathered from 12 failed marriages. Despite the pain, she says hope still remains.
In an interview with Citizen Digital, the 37-year-old revealed that her first marriage happened when she was still a minor. She explained that a troubled upbringing pushed her into early relationships as she sought love and stability.
“I didn’t come from a stable family. My parents separated when I was young. My mum remarried, and life with my dad was not easy. My siblings left home, and I tried to live with my mum, but it was unbearable,” she said.
With no solid foundation at home, Abok said she became vulnerable and fell into the hands of older men who took advantage of her situation. Many of these men, she said, were already married but hid her away with false promises.
“Most were married men. They would rent houses for me and keep me there to hide me from their wives and other drama. I ended up with them because I was desperate, and I always fell for their lies that they would take me to school,” she explained.
One of the most painful experiences she shared involved a 77-year-old pastor who fathered one of her children. According to Abok, he misled her with empty promises and mistreated her throughout the relationship.
“He was married and took me to a different place from his main home. He would visit me during the day. He never fulfilled any of his promises and sometimes even abused me. Our relationship had more downs than ups, but I chose to remain until his wife found out. I was chased away,” she recalled.
Now a mother of three, Abok said she supports her children through various menial jobs while battling the emotional effects of her past, including turning to harmful coping methods.
Still, she holds on to the possibility of finding love again.
“Maybe God can bring a good person my way. I would still accept love. For now, I may not be ready, but I haven’t shut the door to love,” she said.
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