A man has stirred debate online after claiming that 80 to 90 percent of men were not raised properly, explaining that this is why many refuse to help their partners with household chores.
Speaking candidly, he said assisting a wife or girlfriend does not make a man less of a man or a “simp,” emphasising that chores should not be seen as a one-person responsibility.
Poor upbringing behind lazy husbands
“If you were raised properly, you should know that helping your partner isn’t a problem and doesn’t make you less of a man,” he said, pointing out that most men’s mothers failed in teaching them responsibility and shared household duties.
“In the house I was raised, although my mom didn’t force us to work, she would tell you: as I’m doing this thing, help me do that one. Chores aren’t just for women, they are for anyone who lives in the house.”
The man also highlighted that helping a partner is part of being a responsible adult.
He explained that if a wife is busy with tasks like washing clothes or cleaning, her partner should step in without hesitation, especially when both share the same home.
He added that refusing to help is often rooted in upbringing, not personal preference, and criticised men who see household work as beneath them.
His statement quickly went viral, sparking reactions online as users debated gender roles, responsibility, and proper upbringing in Nigerian homes.
Social media reactions
@Julius_Ceezer commented: “Women go like hear this one.”
@nuelmars commented: “He dey inside his one room selfcon dey yan rubbish. A foolish simp.”
@ClementEmuan01 commented: “Like how about before I married you, I had people to help me clean? Then I married you and sacked them… now you complain I should help clean?”
@AlagabIP commented: “Ah, when you fail to have a father figure in the house, why won’t your anus be jealous of your mouth? Oga just shut the fuck up, speak for yourself!”
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If you were raised properly, you should know that helping your partner isn’t a problem and doesn’t make you lėss of a man. – Man said
Ladies go too support wetin this guy talk! pic.twitter.com/zdeO4DTC2X
— TENIOLA (@Teeniiola) January 12, 2026
